The other day I matched with someone on Tinder and we chatted for a couple days. I was pretty excited because he was actually kind of hot. He was married for 15 years and is divorced (not a big deal)...because his wife left him for another woman (ouch). Dude, that sucks. But it opened up a chance for me. We had a lot of things in common...love of travel, same college degrees, and we both do endurance events. It was fun having a conversation with some substance. So I asked if he was on Facebook so we could chat using a real keyboard rather than a smartphone and the Tinder app. He immediately sent his name and I friend requested him. He accepted.
And I found out he lives two rectangle states away (and is only here for work periodically throughout the year).
And has four kids (not a big deal since I don't have any).
And his ex-wife left him for the woman in a married couple with whom they were friends (awkward).
Now the ex and girlfriend live in his former house with his four kids and the other couple's one child.
And the girlfriend's ex-husband bought a house down the street from that house so he could be close to his child.
And this guy moved in with him.
But they're not together. Just housemates. He even sent me a diagram.
So the moms live as a couple in the one house with the five combined kids, and the dads live down the block in another house as roommates. But the kids can come and go from either house as they please.
And they all spend their free time together. Because, you know, they were friends before the whole switcharoo took place.
And he has posted professional family photos of all nine of them and calls the whole group his family and the extra child calls him "dad."
And while this is a great scenario for the kids to have both parents nearby and amicable, it's not a great a scenario for anyone wanting to date either of the ex-husbands.
Because while I appreciate the modern family, the idea of what is essentially a loosely organized commune in the Great West does not light my fire.
So back for more Tinder.
And I found out he lives two rectangle states away (and is only here for work periodically throughout the year).
And has four kids (not a big deal since I don't have any).
And his ex-wife left him for the woman in a married couple with whom they were friends (awkward).
Now the ex and girlfriend live in his former house with his four kids and the other couple's one child.
And the girlfriend's ex-husband bought a house down the street from that house so he could be close to his child.
And this guy moved in with him.
But they're not together. Just housemates. He even sent me a diagram.
So the moms live as a couple in the one house with the five combined kids, and the dads live down the block in another house as roommates. But the kids can come and go from either house as they please.
And they all spend their free time together. Because, you know, they were friends before the whole switcharoo took place.
And he has posted professional family photos of all nine of them and calls the whole group his family and the extra child calls him "dad."
And while this is a great scenario for the kids to have both parents nearby and amicable, it's not a great a scenario for anyone wanting to date either of the ex-husbands.
Because while I appreciate the modern family, the idea of what is essentially a loosely organized commune in the Great West does not light my fire.
So back for more Tinder.
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